Find Clarity, Connection, and Confidence in Yourself and Your Relationship
Couples and individual therapy virtually throughout California or in-person based in Santa Barbara
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Therapy for couples, anxious daters and individuals wanting to improve their relationship
You want a strong foundation for your relationship, but some things feel out of sync. You’re excited for the future but also wondering, are we really prepared for this next step?
Here’s the thing: that’s a perfectly normal place to be. And together, we can strengthen your connection and build the skills to move forward with confidence.
Emily Fiedtkou
Hi, I’m Emily, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Santa Barbara, California. As someone who understands how messy relationships and life transitions can feel, I’m here to create a space where you can explore the hard stuff—without judgment. Whether you’re working through challenges with your partner or finding the confidence to show up authentically in your relationships, therapy with me can help you feel more grounded, more connected, and more you.
Individual work
Sometimes, you just need a space to talk about your relationship- without worrying about it backfiring, which can happen when we involve family or friends. You want honest feedback on navigating that issue with his family, clarity on those mixed feelings about taking the relationship to the next step, and support in becoming the best version of yourself- the one that’s confident, fun and can ask for what you need.
Moving in, getting engaged or saying I do
You’re in the relationship you want, but there are a few things you’d like to get ahead of. Maybe you’re navigating different personalities—you’re the social butterfly, and he’s more the engineering type. Or small disagreements keep popping up about where to live or wedding details. You want a neutral space to work through communication hiccups, tackle the tough questions, and feel confident stepping into this next big chapter together.
How It Feels During Therapy
In our sessions, you’ll feel heard, supported, and understood—like you’re having a deep, thoughtful conversation with someone who truly gets it. No fluff, no pressure, just space to explore what matters most to you. I use evidence-based practices such as Dialectical behavior therapy and The Gottman Method so you’re getting proven tools that actually work.
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