Find Clarity, Connection, and Confidence in Yourself and Your Relationships
Couples, Individuals and Teen Therapy
Virtually throughout California or in-person based in Santa Barbara
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Clients come to me when stress, disconnection or self-doubt start spilling into their relationships.
You might be feeling like nothing you do is enough in your marriage, unsure how to support your teen through anxiety, or stuck repeating the same patterns in your relationships. Therapy offers a mix of support and strategies to help you feel grounded, capable, and more connected.
Clients are ready to meet me when they’re ready to trust themselves and build stronger connections with the people they love.
Life feels different when stress and self-doubt aren’t running the show. In therapy, you’ll find space to pause, sort through what’s overwhelming, and practice new ways of approaching relationships. And for parents, it’s knowing your teen has a space that’s theirs — a place where they can open up, learn new skills, and feel supported.
My Specialities
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Whether you’re feeling stuck in cycles of conflict or simply wanting more ease in your relationship, couples therapy helps you improve communication, strengthen connection, and rebuild trust so you can reconnect with why you chose each other.
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Preparing for marriage isn’t just about planning a wedding — it’s about building a strong foundation. Premarital therapy gives you the space to explore values, communication, and conflict styles so you can enter marriage with clarity and confidence.
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Therapy for teens from age 14 to support throughout the college years.Teen therapy offers support for high-achieving teens who feel overwhelmed, helping them manage stress, build resilience, and feel more confident navigating school, friendships, and family life.
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Sometimes the best way to improve your relationship is by starting with yourself. Individual therapy for men helps you identify patterns, build confidence, and learn skills that support healthier, more fulfilling connections without the usual therapy fluff.
Emily Fiedtkou
Hi, I’m Emily, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Santa Barbara, California. As someone who understands how messy relationships and life transitions can feel, I’m here to create a space where you can explore the hard stuff—without judgment. Whether you’re working through challenges with your partner or finding the confidence to show up authentically in your relationships, therapy with me can help you feel more grounded, more connected, and more you.
Therapy With Me is
A mix of support and practical strategies you can actually use
Focused on connection, not just conflict
Direct and honest, without judgment
Grounded in research, but always down-to-earth
About building confidence and self-trust, not just “fixing problems”
Action-oriented while leaving room for reflection
Collaborative- we’ll figure out what works best for you